What to Say When a Beloved Pet Dies

Grief experts agree, the following is a list of what NOT to say to a friend or family member facing the loss of a beloved pet:

• “I know how you feel.”  You could, instead, ask your friend to tell you how he or she feels.
• “It’s part of God’s plan.” This phrase can evoke anger. 
• “Look at what you have to be thankful for.” They know – but right now they are grieving.
• “He’s in a better place now.” The bereaved may or may not believe this – offer your opinions only when asked.
• “This is behind you now – it’s time to get on with your life.” Remember, grief has no timetable.
• Statements that begin with “You should” or “You will.”  Instead, you could begin your comments with: “Have you thought about…” or “You might consider…”

What You SHOULD Say Instead:

• Acknowledge the situation. Example: “I am so sorry to hear that your (pet/cat/dog,etc.) died.”  Don’t be afraid to use the word “died.”
• Express your concern.  Example: “I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you.”
• Be genuine in your communication, and don’t hide your feelings. Example: “I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.”
• Offer your support.  Example: “Tell me what I can do for you.”
• Ask how he or she feels. Don’t assume you already know.  People want to be asked.
• Share a memory of the deceased pet.  It means the world to people to know their beloved pet is not forgotten.

While we can’t take away the pain of a loss, we can provide a measure of comfort and support.  It’s important to allow others the time they need to process their emotions and remember that grief follows its own trajectory.

At the Pet Cremation Center of Southern Utah, pets are family too.  Contact us at (435) 523-4800, or visit us at 1316 S. 400 E., Ste. A3.

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